AF is definitely the place to go for advice about women… Anyway, I randomly was in anotehr european city over the weekend, met a nice bird, who it turns out only lives about 30 mins by road from where I live. We made out and talked quite a bit. Got her number, and said we should catch up when shes back home. As she is going to her original home town to work for the next 3 weeks. Anyone got any tips on how I should play this. She’s only 21, extremely cute and innocent. I am 29, is that too old too? So what would be the perfect text message, and when should i send??
Give it 2 days though (mid afternoon tomo) you are itching to send it. Sure she is also itching to hear from you again and it will build up a nice amount of desire / anticipation from her side. “Hello pretty girl, Really glad I bumped into you in XYZ. Looking forward to bump into you again when you get back here 
TPCFA” Not too old at all - it is over the legal age there right? Wait for her response and we will give you further instructions!
Age is not bad. Women are more mature than men anyway (or so they want you to believe). “Hey, how was the rest of your weekend? I’m really glad we met and look foward to seeing you again when you’re back. TPCFA”
21 is totally legal. Legal age most places is 16 I think. In Mexico it’s 12, so book your flights today
All that mesage advice is good. but jsut thought it would be better to send something that she’d have to respond to?
Dude, pull a Favre
transferpricingCFA Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > All that mesage advice is good. but jsut thought > it would be better to send something that she’d > have to respond to? No. “Have to respond to?” What does that even mean? 21st Century. Women have rights. You can’t just text her on some “I have your family being held hostage, I demand a date.” You’ll get a response but it might be from the police. Probably the toughest part of dating is the fact you might get rejected. That’s also what makes it rewarding. Once you have someone who is into you they have chosen that for themself. She already made out with you so your chances are 4x as high to get a response like “HEY!!! I HAD FUN TOO.” ROFL. Maybe not exactly those words, but you get the point. Do not make yourself appear too desperate for this to work out. Do make her know you had fun and want to do it again. Do not start or base any relationship on “have tos.” It might work for a while, but its a pretty bad foundation to build a house on.
“Never refuse a breath mint.”
send her the text " do you have a younger sister"
21 is not too young… to nail… But if you’re looking for a LT relationship, I wouldn’t waste your time. It may go from 3mo-2yrs, but 99% sure it will end as she has a lot more mental development to go through.
CFABLACKBELT Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > 21 is not too young… to nail… > > But if you’re looking for a LT relationship, I > wouldn’t waste your time. It may go from > 3mo-2yrs, but 99% sure it will end as she has a > lot more mental development to go through. When do you think someone is mature enough? What is an acceptable age gap for compatability? Obviously the older you get the less the #s matter.
lxwarr30 Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > CFABLACKBELT Wrote: > -------------------------------------------------- > ----- > > 21 is not too young… to nail… > > > > But if you’re looking for a LT relationship, I > > wouldn’t waste your time. It may go from > > 3mo-2yrs, but 99% sure it will end as she has a > > lot more mental development to go through. > > > When do you think someone is mature enough? What > is an acceptable age gap for compatability? > Obviously the older you get the less the #s > matter. Agreed that age gap isn’t an issue once you get older. But at 21 you still have a crap ton of things you need to go through. I forget where the post was, but someone had a good writeup on how the brain isn’t even fully developed until around 25.
agreed, i just want to have fun with this bird. That means nail of course, but also just other mindless fun. I also think LT relationship would be unlikely, at 21 I didnt know SH!T
I’d just play it cool. Don’t make her think you’ve got too much invested in her. Girls my age (21-24) love being treated poorly.
cfablackbelt is 100% correct,
Yeah, I remember that writeup. I liked it too.
I disagree, IMHO: Women worth dating get their stuff sorted out by age 24 and are in long term relationships by then. If they are not in one then there is probably something wrong with them and they are not the type of women you want to get in a LT relationship with. The perfect age to date a women is in her early 20’s. You need to decide if you are serious about her by the time she’s 24 otherwise you are wasting her time which is an ethics violation. Give it a go. It probably won’t work, but that is not the worst thing that can happen. Sometimes nice girls get in relationships that don’t go anywhere, and end up single in their mid and late 20’s but quality girls that aren’t insane don’t generally stay single for very long. So you don’t see that often.
^This is what im worried about, all the quality ones in the 25 to 30 age group I should be loooking in are taken!
The answer is dating younger girls. Don’t let people tell you there is anything wrong with dating a chick younger than you. That’s a fallacy. It’s to your distinct evolutionary advantage to do so. Few women will have an issue dating a 29 year old guy, even 18 year olds usually wont mind. A 21 year old should have absolutely no qualms about it. In general it is a positive to them. They like us more mature and stable both financially and emotionally. My older brother is 36 and got married to a 24 year old last year. He’s a very successful guy and she’s a very classy girl. The age difference means that she looks up to him and they have a great relationship because of it. He’s in the driver seat.