Dating in the Workplace

I’ve never hooked up with a co-worker but there have been a couple girls who were interested in me. Girl 1 We worked in the same group. She was new and I had to show her how to do something so she was sitting next to me at my desk. She kept flirting and I reciprocated a little just for fun. But she kept going on and on to the point where we couldn’t really work. During this “training” process, I pushed her away from me cause she was grabbing me and $hit and she pretended to fall off her chair. I swiftly grabbed her to keep her from falling (I wasn’t sure if I pushed her too hard) and in doing so I accidentally grabbed her boob. I put her back on the chair and she seemed to like that I grabbed her boob and put her chest all up on me. Anyway, I wasn’t really attracted (maybe a 6 on the looks scale and also very fobby) and proceeded to finish the training. Girl 2 She also worked in the same group as me and ended up staying at my company for only 2 months. She was constantly flirting. “Hey topher, can you give me a massage?”

I would do something too if I had all upside gain and no downside risk. Unfortunately, thats not how the law regarding harassment works in most states. It is the interpretation of the “harassed” individual, not the intent of the accused party. Even third parties can accuse someone of harassment even if they are not in the conversation. So flirting one day could be construed as harassment the very next day for the identical activity. Simply not worth it.

topher Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Girl 2 > She also worked in the same group as me and ended > up staying at my company for only 2 months. She > was constantly flirting. “Hey topher, can you give > me a massage?” She even moved her hair over and actually expected > it. She also touched me a lot, flipped her hair, > etc. After she left the company, she called me up > to go out. I just wanted a friendly lunch but she > kept insisting on drinks and possibly going over > to her place after… Also keep in mind she had a > doctor boyfriend this whole time. I got out of it. > This girl was maybe a 7 but she was way too > domineering. That is a major turnoff for me. If the doctor weren’t there, would you have banged her? Also, the girl 1, when the b0ob incident, it was a 36 B maybe? Give us some light, dude.

Is Topher Don Draper?

Ocean Mist Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Dating in the workplace - pro or con? > > I am mostly con about it, but I’ve seen some > successful relationship come about (and they’re > married now). But I have also heard some horror > stories. At this one top M&A firm, there was a > really hot receptionist that hit on several of the > seniors at the firm, and one partner fell for the > bait. Later on, he got hit with a huge sexual > harassment lawsuit with all of the embarrassing > emails to follow suit. > > Any personal experiences? classic!

topher Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I’ve never hooked up with a co-worker but there > have been a couple girls who were interested in > me. > > Girl 1 > We worked in the same group. She was new and I had > to show her how to do something so she was sitting > next to me at my desk. She kept flirting and I > reciprocated a little just for fun. But she kept > going on and on to the point where we couldn’t > really work. During this “training” process, I > pushed her away from me cause she was grabbing me > and $hit and she pretended to fall off her chair. > I swiftly grabbed her to keep her from falling (I > wasn’t sure if I pushed her too hard) and in doing > so I accidentally grabbed her boob. I put her back > on the chair and she seemed to like that I grabbed > her boob and put her chest all up on me. Anyway, I > wasn’t really attracted (maybe a 6 on the looks > scale and also very fobby) and proceeded to finish > the training. > > Girl 2 > She also worked in the same group as me and ended > up staying at my company for only 2 months. She > was constantly flirting. “Hey topher, can you give > me a massage?” She even moved her hair over and actually expected > it. She also touched me a lot, flipped her hair, > etc. After she left the company, she called me up > to go out. I just wanted a friendly lunch but she > kept insisting on drinks and possibly going over > to her place after… Also keep in mind she had a > doctor boyfriend this whole time. I got out of it. > This girl was maybe a 7 but she was way too > domineering. That is a major turnoff for me. wow man! send over some tips. I just got rejected on 7 of those ‘wanna dance?’ proposals at a sat night club and when I tried to force ‘into’ one of those xoxo gurlz group, I was escorted out by the bouncer. All happened at Bahamas Mamas @ Hoboken… lol

HAhahah, nice man, remember, its a numbers game. all you need is one of them to say yes

Everyone does it in Europe, so, plenty of experiences both my own and people I know. I know quite a few who have had 5-10 partners from work. I even went as far to marry the last one I dated. In fact, 2 of my previous bosses married someone from work when I come to think of it and a third is still in a medium term relationship with one of our colleagues. His previous gf was also from the office but they split up. She married an entirely different colleague. Get the picture? It’s rife here. Welcome to utopia. It’s called Europe. The hours are short, the holidays are long and all we do is bang.

I dated a girl for 3 years from my last job so it can be done. It was actually kind of fun hiding it and all that…especially in the beginning. Sadly my current job is mostly all guys average age of 45…jealous of you guys that have gals running around. Ah well…not exactly a great reason to move to another job…they treat me well otherwise.

on a related topic I noticed a lot of middle age bosses its say 40+ tend to want female attention from junior staff. I noticed these get jealous if the younger guy or the better looking guy gets more attention/flirting with female coworkers.

topher Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I’ve never hooked up with a co-worker but there > have been a couple girls who were interested in > me. > > Girl 1 > We worked in the same group. She was new and I had > to show her how to do something so she was sitting > next to me at my desk. She kept flirting and I > reciprocated a little just for fun. But she kept > going on and on to the point where we couldn’t > really work. During this “training” process, I > pushed her away from me cause she was grabbing me > and $hit and she pretended to fall off her chair. > I swiftly grabbed her to keep her from falling (I > wasn’t sure if I pushed her too hard) and in doing > so I accidentally grabbed her boob. I put her back > on the chair and she seemed to like that I grabbed > her boob and put her chest all up on me. Anyway, I > wasn’t really attracted (maybe a 6 on the looks > scale and also very fobby) and proceeded to finish > the training. > > Girl 2 > She also worked in the same group as me and ended > up staying at my company for only 2 months. She > was constantly flirting. “Hey topher, can you give > me a massage?” She even moved her hair over and actually expected > it. She also touched me a lot, flipped her hair, > etc. After she left the company, she called me up > to go out. I just wanted a friendly lunch but she > kept insisting on drinks and possibly going over > to her place after… Also keep in mind she had a > doctor boyfriend this whole time. I got out of it. > This girl was maybe a 7 but she was way too > domineering. That is a major turnoff for me. Girl #1 = good call Girl #2 = wtf is wrong with you? a NSA encounter with a 7 and you’re saying no…ok then. if nothing else thats the best therapy after a long hard day of work.

JensensalphaMale Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Con > > Don’t Sh!t where you eat. I don’t have any > personal experience with it. +1. I’d say keep it to flirting only. Girls will get the reputation for sleeping around if you date more than one guy in the office and guys always risk the sexual harassment card being played.

daviskr Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > JensensalphaMale Wrote: > -------------------------------------------------- > ----- > > Con > > > > Don’t Sh!t where you eat. I don’t have any > > personal experience with it. > > +1. I’d say keep it to flirting only. Girls will > get the reputation for sleeping around if you date > more than one guy in the office and guys always > risk the sexual harassment card being played. In this country, you risk the harassment card by only flirting. Full blown relationship actually works in the guys favor because it implies the advances were not unwanted as the gal chose to engage outside of the workplace, vs. “unwanted advances” which is the crux of harassment.

i was sexually harassed once. girl was like…“hi Frankie”. totally coming on to me.

My GF and I work at the same shop. She works on a different floor in marketing. I work in research. We never see each other. Everyone knows…and no one cares.

if you hook up after a holiday party - its totally work-related, right?

mar350 Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > if you hook up after a holiday party - its totally > work-related, right? Possibly yes – and if it’s past normal operating hours, then check with your company’s expense policy to see if you can get reimbursed for the meal/hotel/other excursions

numi Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > mar350 Wrote: > -------------------------------------------------- > ----- > > if you hook up after a holiday party - its > totally > > work-related, right? > > Possibly yes – and if it’s past normal operating > hours, then check with your company’s expense > policy to see if you can get reimbursed for the > meal/hotel/other excursions thanks - some things they just don’t cover in the hr manual

^ yes, but they should! shame on HR

not being able to date in the workplace is total BS because how do they expect you to work until 10pm regularly and still have time to F? sometimes you’ve just gotta get the job done and you f whats close