Do you really find your spouse physically attractive?

I get caring for someone adds a couple points, but just on a strictly superficial level, do you find yourself thinking, “damn, she’s beautiful/hot!” or “Wow, he’s handsome!” somewhat regularly?

Yup, beyond “somewhat regularly”, constantly.

Yes

Absolutely. I 100% have a type and my wife is, in my opinion, the perfect embodiment of that type. Without sounding too cheesy, I still wake up every morning, look at her and spend several minutes wondering what the hell she is doing with her life.

TF got it right

Doesn’t this question already have severe selection bias… It’s like people publishing online reviews on products they bought after already doing extensive research.

Ok, what percentage of your friends and colleagues do you believe actually find their spouses attractive? I often wonder where I can get a pair of those rose colored glasses.

Maybe the question should be framed as “how long does it take to no longer find your spouse attractive?”. 5 years, 10 years, 20 years? Or never. Almost everyone probably thought their spouse was attractive when pulling the trigger. However, perhaps this rating declines over time. Fortunately, physical attractiveness probably declines in importance as people get older, assuming no midlife crisis.

For American guys they picked least bad “product”, that does not mean they were happy about their options.

Depends if you married an Asian or not. laugh

^I know multiple women that have admitted to never finding their spouse physically attractive.

You know Ivana and Melania Trump?

I know “of” a couple more for sure.

Maybe the question should have been, "Does your spouse find you physically attractive? "

Most of us are guys though, and into women, and women don’t really care about that so much.

Age is starting to catch up with my girl (who is older than me), but she’s still quite attractive, and can be stunning when she puts herself together to go out.

Over the years, I’ve learned that no matter how physically attractive someone is, eventually you habituate to their appearance and they don’t excite you as much from physical appearance alone.

It takes longer for that to happen with some people than others, and the animating personality can make a big difference from one day to the next.

I think the main difference that absolute beauty (i.e. The 1-10 scale) makes is how many other women can tempt you with their beauty. The higher the score, the fewer that will make you think about straying. But even being with a 10 won’t stop most of us (myself included) from checking out and at least fantasizing about alternatives.

Ever try explaining that last paragraph to a woman?

I’m not going to pretend my wife is a 10, but I’m pretty sure even if she were, I’d still be tempted by the beauty of others. Perhaps there is something wrong with me, but from a standpoint of purely sexual attraction, I struggle to find women that I wouldn’t give a go to at least once. Could be biology, could be some sort of sexual addiction, I really don’t know, but if you are between 18 and 50 and somewhere south of outright obesity, I will probably have a sexual thought about you on occasion. And 50 is arbitrary. I work with several women pushing 60 that would be an absolute “yes” if I were able to. I’m a decent man, so it’s only on rare occasions that I take them furniture shopping or grab them by the P, but the point stands, I’m not discriminating in my willingness to disappoint a woman.

Pretty sure we all fap to other women. If you don’t, well, that’s weird.

Is furniture shopping the billionaire’s drinks and dinner?..The grab them by the p worked for me once in Key West. We continued our conversation at the bar and she continued to smile. The night ended well.

Few women like it, but many do understand it, at least intellectually. And some feel the same way about the men they are with.

Maybe the common mentality is “yes, I know lots of guys check out other girls, but not my guy”.