engagement pressure

[Ramos4rm]

@whatsyourgovt

@Ramos4rm

@whatsyourgovt

so my girl thinks rings/weddings are a waste and doesn’t believe in spending a lot of money on these events. She also never brought it up -albeit we discussed it - until i went to visited her family for the first time in person (former soviet union country). All her friends thought this would be a perfect time -which it would be if i was ready - but instead i simply asked her father for permission for her hand. She was ecstatic when she heard that but then the texts from her friends changed the mood asking for ring pics and instantly discounted what i thought was a major life event.

with all that said, i dont foresee much difference pre/post engagement. we already live/own a house together.

Supyogov…don’t be a fool. She’s a quality girl and of course will not tell you in your face she wants an awesome ring and her dream wedding. You gotta give it to her anyway…or she will be secretly disappointed with you forever. Never listen when a girl says she doesn’t care about rings/wedding.

always the voice of reason. I’ll make it so im not the only one in the relationship with heavy hands. More details to come at the next AF meetup.

I like this. I am trying to make it a thing that girls get engagement rings and men get…wait for it… ENGAGEMENT WATCHES. 3 month salary watch.

[Black_Swan]

@Ramos4rm

@whatsyourgovt

@Ramos4rm

@whatsyourgovt

so my girl thinks rings/weddings are a waste and doesn’t believe in spending a lot of money on these events. She also never brought it up -albeit we discussed it - until i went to visited her family for the first time in person (former soviet union country). All her friends thought this would be a perfect time -which it would be if i was ready - but instead i simply asked her father for permission for her hand. She was ecstatic when she heard that but then the texts from her friends changed the mood asking for ring pics and instantly discounted what i thought was a major life event.

with all that said, i dont foresee much difference pre/post engagement. we already live/own a house together.

Supyogov…don’t be a fool. She’s a quality girl and of course will not tell you in your face she wants an awesome ring and her dream wedding. You gotta give it to her anyway…or she will be secretly disappointed with you forever. Never listen when a girl says she doesn’t care about rings/wedding.

always the voice of reason. I’ll make it so im not the only one in the relationship with heavy hands. More details to come at the next AF meetup.

I like this. I am trying to make it a thing that girls get engagement rings and men get…wait for it… ENGAGEMENT WATCHES. 3 month salary watch.

NOICE

[Black_Swan]

@whatsyourgovt

@klaudnine

If getting married is not worth spending money I dunno wth is worth spending money for, it’s probably one of the most important life event.

You could use the money on such better things. 100k spent on a wedding could afford countless experiences together in numerous countries. I’d much prefer to spend weeks traveling the world than one surrounded by expensive flowers.

+1

I can think of so many things better than spending money on a wedding

1. House

2. Paying off debt so you can have less stress and more time / experiences with one another as well as control over your life.

3. Traveling together

4. etc etc etc

[itera]

@Ramos4rm

@whatsyourgovt

@Ramos4rm

@whatsyourgovt

so my girl thinks rings/weddings are a waste and doesn’t believe in spending a lot of money on these events. She also never brought it up -albeit we discussed it - until i went to visited her family for the first time in person (former soviet union country). All her friends thought this would be a perfect time -which it would be if i was ready - but instead i simply asked her father for permission for her hand. She was ecstatic when she heard that but then the texts from her friends changed the mood asking for ring pics and instantly discounted what i thought was a major life event.

with all that said, i dont foresee much difference pre/post engagement. we already live/own a house together.

Supyogov…don’t be a fool. She’s a quality girl and of course will not tell you in your face she wants an awesome ring and her dream wedding. You gotta give it to her anyway…or she will be secretly disappointed with you forever. Never listen when a girl says she doesn’t care about rings/wedding.

always the voice of reason. I’ll make it so im not the only one in the relationship with heavy hands. More details to come at the next AF meetup.

I like this. I am trying to make it a thing that girls get engagement rings and men get…wait for it… ENGAGEMENT WATCHES. 3 month salary watch.

LOL What if she works part time making minimum wage hourly?

[itera]

@klaudnine

If getting married is not worth spending money I dunno wth is worth spending money for, it’s probably one of the most important life event.

it’s worth spending SOME money, but blowing a substantial amount of your life savings on 1 party makes 0 sense.

[Analti_Calte_Equity]

@Black_Swan

@whatsyourgovt

@klaudnine

If getting married is not worth spending money I dunno wth is worth spending money for, it’s probably one of the most important life event.

You could use the money on such better things. 100k spent on a wedding could afford countless experiences together in numerous countries. I’d much prefer to spend weeks traveling the world than one surrounded by expensive flowers.

+1

I can think of so many things better than spending money on a wedding

1. House

2. Paying off debt so you can have less stress and more time / experiences with one another as well as control over your life.

3. Traveling together

4. etc etc etc

yeah weddings are kind of a waste if you’re spending $$$,$$$

[Sweep_the_Leg]

Why are you guys spending your own money on your wedding? The father of the bride pays for everything.

[Analti_Calte_Equity]

@Sweep_the_Leg

Why are you guys spending your own money on your wedding? The father of the bride pays for everything.

yeah but what if the dad of the hot bride is broke

[krazykanuck]

@Analti\_Calte\_Equity

yeah but what if the dad of the hot bride is broke

Find a hot bride from a family with money?

[Sweep_the_Leg]

@Analti\_Calte\_Equity

@Sweep_the_Leg

Why are you guys spending your own money on your wedding? The father of the bride pays for everything.

yeah but what if the dad of the hot bride is broke

Hot white trash is a good one to check off your list, but you don’t marry her.

[Analti_Calte_Equity]

@Sweep_the_Leg

@Analti\_Calte\_Equity

@Sweep_the_Leg

Why are you guys spending your own money on your wedding? The father of the bride pays for everything.

yeah but what if the dad of the hot bride is broke

Hot white trash is a good one to check off your list, but you don’t marry her.

respect.

[Black_Swan]

@Sweep_the_Leg

@Analti\_Calte\_Equity

@Sweep_the_Leg

Why are you guys spending your own money on your wedding? The father of the bride pays for everything.

yeah but what if the dad of the hot bride is broke

Hot white trash is a good one to check off your list, but you don’t marry her.

My wife’s family is broke so I’m paying for the wedding.

[Black_Swan]

Having a low earning wife from a poor family definitely substantially decreases some aspects of quality of life over the near term. It’s a hard row to hoe.

[whatsyourgovt]

@Sweep_the_Leg

Why are you guys spending your own money on your wedding? The father of the bride pays for everything.

just another reason to not have a daughter.

[Analti_Calte_Equity]

@whatsyourgovt

just another reason to not have a daughter.

welcome to china

[itera]

@Black_Swan

Having a low earning wife from a poor family definitely substantially decreases some aspects of quality of life over the near term. It’s a hard row to hoe.

on the flip side, having a spoiled daddy’s girl for a wife who had a father that’ll always be richer than you is also a disaster

[itera]

@Analti\_Calte\_Equity

@whatsyourgovt

just another reason to not have a daughter.

welcome to china

where the gay men population is increasing rapidly

[system]

im taking my time on my ride.

[whatsyourgovt]

@Analti\_Calte\_Equity

@whatsyourgovt

just another reason to not have a daughter.

welcome to china

I thought they were all porn addicted.

[Matt_Likes_Analysis]

@itera

@Black_Swan

Having a low earning wife from a poor family definitely substantially decreases some aspects of quality of life over the near term. It’s a hard row to hoe.

on the flip side, having a spoiled daddy’s girl for a wife who had a father that’ll always be richer than you is also a disaster

+1. back in the day, the whole “the next generation will be wealthier than the last” certainly helped with marrying even or slightly up as you had a good chance of being better off than her old man. it’s tough sledding these days. as long as she doesn’t have a ‘daddy’s girl’ necklace, license plate or gag, you should be fine.