Definitely drinks. Dinner sends the message that you are treating her and are really into her. Even if that is the case, it’s better to take it slow. Even if you have a good income, I would recommend drinks at some place cheap and not fancy to start off with (I like dive bars). She’ll like you more if you don’t fawn over her with dinner, flowers, etc. You can ramp it up over time if she’s worth spending more on. She should be impressing you in the early stages, not the other way around.
why not propose? its original, gets her attetion, and the right thing to do…if she says yes you know she likes you and you won’t have to post on here again…if no, then you can post onhere again why she is calling the cops on you…
I’m also a fan of having your parents meet her parents first over dinner and proposing a dowry. See if her dad has any useful business connections that would create synergies for you or help you get promoted.
You really are a peice of work! You drag AF with you on your colleage dating sexcapade all along playing the pussy teen movie loser who’s trying to win the homecoming queen. We coach you through it all only to have you kick her to the curb and now go on a first date with someone else! Fck you TPCFA! Go Away!
But since dating vicariously is almost as fun as the real thing (and less expensive), I would have to say that dinner is always good unless you are worried about running out of things to talk about. Or you met them online and are not sure whether or not you will want to run screaming for the hills when you meet them.
I wasn’t clever enough to do this of late, but I think it is a good idea to have a different place in mind for dessert and after-dinner drinks, so that if dinner goes well, you suggest going somewhere more intimate (though you don’t need to say “more intimate”). If it doesn’t go well, then just have dessert where you have dinner, and if it goes badly, you skip dessert entirely.
I’ve got a theory though … TransferP is actually a chick making fun of us cold-hearted, feelingless AF dudes with these stories going nowhere, just to extract information and have a good laugh at the ladies’ restroom.