Hot chick gets hit on 108 times in one day

[nigelnyc]

@purealpha…I study in the library on 40th street NYC all the time…It is full of KOREANS!!! They are all over the place in NYC…they must like something about it…Actually some of the coolest people in NY I have met are Koreans…those that were born in the USA…not Korea. Have you ever been to NY???

[igor555]

http://gothamist.com/2014/10/31/nyc_women_share_their_street_harass.php

[krazykanuck]

http://www.buzzfeed.com/jobarrow/this-women-set-up-an-instagram-to-show-the-shocking-truth-of

This is funny, in the completely sad, I can’t believe these guys exist, kind of way.

[Stevens]

It is pretty obvious what the problem with catcalling is. Most women don’t really enjoy being on the receiving end of a multitude of sexual advances and aggression from a plethora of men who they have absolutely no sexual interest in.

As a case in point, my girlfriend used to often come home in tears when she had to walk past a pub on the way to work. She is a shy, timid, 5ft/50kg women and on a daily basis had to listen to a bunch of fat old usless bums on benefits making suggestive comments and generally just making it hard for her to get past whilst they stood outside drinking. On the other hand, she has come home absolutely elated when a “normal” seeming guy has approached her and commented on her appearance, shoes, dress etc.

Both groups are clearly hoping to ultimately get laid, but I suspect that part of the difference is that the unpleasant ones already know they have no chance, which is why their comments seem to be so misguided and filled with vitriol. On the other hand, no sensible “normal” guy would approach a women with an offensive comment if he was trying to pick up.

The problem is simple to analyse but clearly more difficult to solve.

[inkybinky]

Chicks don’t like to be catcalled by losers because, if a loser thinks he has a chance with said chick, that implies that the chick is fat and/or ugly. If a chick was catcalled by a group of Chippendale dancers, she would be elated because she would feel hot.

[geo]

^ There might actually be some logic in that statement.

[Stevens]

I understand the logic but real life doesn’t work like that. “Losers” hit on women out of their league all day long, just take a look around in any club.

[bchad]

I like Stevens’ point. I’ve found that most women enjoy unsolicited compliments, provided:

1. What’s said are not crude or suggestive of anything other than that her presence is pleasant,
2. the venue and/or timing is appropriate (i.e. generally not on the street, or in a venue where a compliment on appearence might suggest that she is not really professionally competent - compliments on clothes choice are generally positive, compliments on her body are generally considered crude or threatening),
3. the man is as (nonverbally) clear that he is not in any way threatening, and
4. the compliment comes across as sincere.

Bonus points if what is said is funny, or from a guy she finds attractive.

[former_trader]

@Stevens

As a case in point, my girlfriend used to often come home in tears when she had to walk past a pub on the way to work. She is a shy, timid, 5ft/50kg women and on a daily basis had to listen to a bunch of fat old usless bums on benefits making suggestive comments and generally just making it hard for her to get past whilst they stood outside drinking.

Your gf took it too personally. Hecklers outside of pubs in London attack everyone with no mercy: women, men, children, the elderly, etc. A bit like attending a game in Phily wearing the opposing team’s jersey.

[former_trader]

@bchad

I like Stevens’ point. I’ve found that most women enjoy unsolicited compliments, provided:

1. What’s said are not crude or suggestive of anything other than that her presence is pleasant,
2. the venue and/or timing is appropriate (i.e. generally not on the street, or in a venue where a compliment on appearence might suggest that she is not really professionally competent - compliments on clothes choice are generally positive, compliments on her body are generally considered crude or threatening),
3. the man is as (nonverbally) clear that he is not in any way threatening, and
4. the compliment comes across as sincere.

Bonus points if what is said is funny, or from a guy she finds attractive.

They prefer being teased playfully than being complimented, especially the extremely attractive ones that receive a compliment every 2 minutes. No matter how creative or sincere you think you are, she’s heard it a million times before. Complimenting works more with women that don’t receive any; you wouldn’t want those anyway.

When a woman is slapping you on the shoulder and calling you a smart a$$ while having a smile on her face, you know you’re in like flynn.

[itera]

@former_trader

@bchad

I like Stevens’ point. I’ve found that most women enjoy unsolicited compliments, provided:

1. What’s said are not crude or suggestive of anything other than that her presence is pleasant,
2. the venue and/or timing is appropriate (i.e. generally not on the street, or in a venue where a compliment on appearence might suggest that she is not really professionally competent - compliments on clothes choice are generally positive, compliments on her body are generally considered crude or threatening),
3. the man is as (nonverbally) clear that he is not in any way threatening, and
4. the compliment comes across as sincere.

Bonus points if what is said is funny, or from a guy she finds attractive.

They prefer being teased playfully than being complimented, especially the extremely attractive ones that receive a compliment every 2 minutes. No matter how creative or sincere you think you are, she’s heard it a million times before. Complimenting works more with women that don’t receive any; you wouldn’t want those anyway.

When a woman is slapping you on the shoulder and calling you a smart a$$ while having a smile on her face, you know you’re in like flynn.

Agree with this. the pretty girls have seen and heard it all. you got to start with a seemingly unique not-intentionall-coming-on vibe

[Stevens]

@former_trader

@Stevens

As a case in point, my girlfriend used to often come home in tears when she had to walk past a pub on the way to work. She is a shy, timid, 5ft/50kg women and on a daily basis had to listen to a bunch of fat old usless bums on benefits making suggestive comments and generally just making it hard for her to get past whilst they stood outside drinking.

Your gf took it too personally. Hecklers outside of pubs in London attack everyone with no mercyL women, men, children, the elderly, etc. A bit like attending a game in Phily wearing the opposing team’s jersey.

Not sure I agree with this either. I walk past plenty of London pubs without getting bothered at all. It’s not really surprising that you are less likely to be bothered if you are 6ft bodybuilder type than a petite woman. I am not 6ft but interestingly the only time I’ve had any negative experience in London is when I have been with my gf on the train and a really drunk, much bigger guy was spoiling for a fight in a very obvious “me tarzan, you jane” kind of way.

[AfricaFarmer]

Try being a black dude in Guangzhou.

[brain_wash_your_face]

@AfricaFarmer

Try being a black dude in Guangzhou.

Wouldn’t fit in?

[thommo77]

@itera

@former_trader

@bchad

I like Stevens’ point. I’ve found that most women enjoy unsolicited compliments, provided:

1. What’s said are not crude or suggestive of anything other than that her presence is pleasant,
2. the venue and/or timing is appropriate (i.e. generally not on the street, or in a venue where a compliment on appearence might suggest that she is not really professionally competent - compliments on clothes choice are generally positive, compliments on her body are generally considered crude or threatening),
3. the man is as (nonverbally) clear that he is not in any way threatening, and
4. the compliment comes across as sincere.

Bonus points if what is said is funny, or from a guy she finds attractive.

They prefer being teased playfully than being complimented, especially the extremely attractive ones that receive a compliment every 2 minutes. No matter how creative or sincere you think you are, she’s heard it a million times before. Complimenting works more with women that don’t receive any; you wouldn’t want those anyway.

When a woman is slapping you on the shoulder and calling you a smart a$$ while having a smile on her face, you know you’re in like flynn.

Agree with this. the pretty girls have seen and heard it all. you got to start with a seemingly unique not-intentionall-coming-on vibe

Agree. Really pretty girls get complimented all the time so telling a girl she has beautiful eyes no matter how sincere will get brushed off. This strategy works with average looking girls because they never get complimented that much. Some hot girls like sincere compliments if they are in a really competitive environment with other hot girls (think of girls in Florida) and may be flying under the radar. With really hot girls my experience has been you have to 1) talk to them normally and be playful as if you are having an everyday conversation 2) don’t put them on a pedestal 3) give them a backhanded compliment to make them kind of mad that you are not interested in them (I think in pickup community it is called a neg). Easier said than done though.

[system]

@purealpha

@former_trader

@purealpha

Yeah, I know about the whole pickup-artist subculture thing. But these guys in the video aren’t even pro, just random annoying losers.

True, but these guys never had a chance anyway. No ambition, no money, no class, no game, no sense of style, no looks. Most of these guys were eliminated from birth (looks, socio economic class, environment, maybe even race if the chick dates only certain ones).

Ouch, finance dudes are blood thirsty killers, I like it.

As the wife put it “I don’t understand what they think is going to happen, that I’m going to jump into the alley and sleep with a bum, and then continue on my way to Nordstroms?”. There’s 0% chance, yet they continue the behavior. I guess they are just lonely and bored…

I dont know how it works in Korea but in Japan, approaching women on the streets is how these so-called ‘touts’ find women to work for them in porn.

[brain_wash_your_face]

I was walking through the hood by accident yesterday, wearing gym warm up apparrel. In 5 minutes I had, in order:

1. Two women ask to bum a cig, then say “Stop hitting on that boy” as I was walking away.

2. Some dude across the street yell at me “Hey, bro.” I don’t respond. Three seconds later “Hey, boss!” This continued for about 20 seconds until I got near the end of the block. I assume he wanted to sell me drugs, but who knows.

3. A guy sneer at me as he passed me.

It’s rough out there for a white dude.

[Sweep_the_Leg]

@brain\_wash\_your\_face

I was walking through the hood by accident yesterday, wearing gym warm up apparrel. In 5 minutes I had, in order:

1. Two women ask to bum a cig, then say “Stop hitting on that boy” as I was walking away.

2. Some dude across the street yell at me “Hey, bro.” I don’t respond. Three seconds later “Hey, boss!” This continued for about 20 seconds until I got near the end of the block. I assume he wanted to sell me drugs, but who knows.

3. A guy sneer at me as he passed me.

It’s rough out there for a white dude.

One does not simply “accidentally” walk through the hood.

[Matt_Likes_Analysis]

@Sweep_the_Leg

@brain\_wash\_your\_face

I was walking through the hood by accident yesterday, wearing gym warm up apparrel. In 5 minutes I had, in order:

1. Two women ask to bum a cig, then say “Stop hitting on that boy” as I was walking away.

2. Some dude across the street yell at me “Hey, bro.” I don’t respond. Three seconds later “Hey, boss!” This continued for about 20 seconds until I got near the end of the block. I assume he wanted to sell me drugs, but who knows.

3. A guy sneer at me as he passed me.

It’s rough out there for a white dude.

One does not simply “accidentally” walk through the hood.

yeah, what are you doing in the hood if not buying drugs or ladies?

[brain_wash_your_face]

@Matt_Likes_Analysis

@Sweep_the_Leg

@brain\_wash\_your\_face

I was walking through the hood by accident yesterday, wearing gym warm up apparrel. In 5 minutes I had, in order:

1. Two women ask to bum a cig, then say “Stop hitting on that boy” as I was walking away.

2. Some dude across the street yell at me “Hey, bro.” I don’t respond. Three seconds later “Hey, boss!” This continued for about 20 seconds until I got near the end of the block. I assume he wanted to sell me drugs, but who knows.

3. A guy sneer at me as he passed me.

It’s rough out there for a white dude.

One does not simply “accidentally” walk through the hood.

yeah, what are you doing in the hood if not buying drugs or ladies?

Voting, instead of walking down the main street and then up, I went up and over. Maybe this doesn’t happen in cities that are very spread out, but you can definitely walk through higher crime neighborhoods in older cities by accident.

Anyway, the point is being heckled, not the neighborhood. Happens to us guys too.