Where are you going on the weekends where you are courting threesomes from bisexual women? Your wife doesn’t go out with you? Is this the lifestyle of risk management workers in London? Most of my outings involve 90% middle aged guys who are waiting to get on the train to Westchester…
I’ve been out on the past 3 weekends in a row. Last weekend was with some old college pals and it got a bit crazy at da club. I’ve been reliving part of my youth for the past few weeks and it’s great fun. Women are all over me though and it can get frustrating coz it’s hard to say no.
I do go out with wifey too though. She’s a good laugh and a good night out!.. But i’m gonna have to settle down soon… all this shit is taking it toll on me man…
Asians who go to Cambridge are animals, because they are all repressed as kids. They are waiting for some handsome dark gentleman to help unleash the beast.
I’ve decided to stay clear though. No point risking it all to bang some tight poon, while she squeeling like a little pig at me and i’m slipping my thumb in her ass hole. … oh wait…
Regardless of what happens with this girl at work, I think you need to investigate why you are unhappy in your marriage before you guys get preggers. Maybe even go see someone to get a third party perspective.
My wife and I are in the same age demographic as you but with a 2 year old. If you think things are tough right now, wait til you have a kid. It’s a game changer. Honestly, my wife and I were super happy before the baby and rarely fought but things changed after the baby and went through some rough patches. I think we’ve managed to work through a lot of our problems, but it is definitely hard work and only gets harder with a newborn.
I would never encourage anyone to get a divorce but better to separate now than after having a kid for obvious reasons.
It’s not really that i’m unhappy… it’s just that as a redblooded male, i find it hard to say no to sex on a plate… Which is the reason i came to speak to my AF brothers to get a sense of perspective. I feel enlighted by it all…
that said, some therapy sounds like a good plan. I think i need to talk to someone about my sexual desires.
Start to ignore her slightly at work. Then reject her. She won’t get batshit crazy from postsex drama, only slightly put off you’re not paying attention to her.
The cycle of banging her would result in more office dramaa and issues, in addition to more distance from your marriage. The workplace drama might actually bleed back to home in some way at some point.
So ignore her a little. Shoot her a smile as you walk by and don’t talk to her. Say nothing. Be nice, genuine and real, just don’t give her all the attention she wants. Then she will be giving you more positive flirtatious vibes which are fine if you can handle them. Then your coworkers will be all over it like ‘you should bang that chick’ when they are talking to you slightly drunk at the bar. Just be like ‘yeah shes hot’ - we’re just friends. They will chuckle. You chuckle. Its cool. You don’t want to see the wrath of a 21 year old chick, unable yet to fully control her hormones, unhappy with you in a work situation, because sh*t will come out of her mouth like you don’t believe, like you’ve never heard, infront of your coworkers. Like even imagine if she was pissed and you went out for some team happy hour that was required and she got blackout and then starting spouting off about crap.