The Air Force has chicks? what’s the male female ratio in the air force? Are the engineers and medics normal civilians or have they also undergone army training?
What about when you guys want to go out? Are you limited to the air force base or can you go out to the city?
Doesn’t it get tiring when most of the new people you meet are from bars and so i assume the connection is pretty fleeting?
What’s sad about it? She had options and she chose a narcissistic sociopath who’se a former drug addict and probably has ADHD. What did she expect? Happily ever after?
She made a bad choice, that’s on her. What’s sad is the men/ women who probably never had the options she had.
@Isildurr - Yes, the Air Force has chicks. 40% of the entire AF is female (or it was when I was in). In contrast, only 7% of the Marine Corps is female.
This isn’t the 1920’s. And I didn’t live in Baghdad or Pyongyang. I lived in San Antonio, Texas. Of course we can go out into the city. In fact, most people live in the city–not on base. I shopped in the city, went to school in the city, etc.
About the bar comment–I’m not really sure what to make of that. Going to a bar when you’re in the military isn’t much different than going to a bar as a civilian. Beer tastes the same, cigarettes taste the same, women look the same, conversation is the same…
Wonder if Juicy J hit it.
Completely false. Nowhere near 2% of men have a chance. Not even close. Maybe when she’s 60.
wow
i think unlike other japanese girls, my goal in life isn’t to get married and have kids.
having said that, i do sympathize the others beacuse these days, people stay in school for way longer than before, when you are studying so much and working at the same time, it’s difficult to find husband material. Not to mention, even if you do find time to date, there is no guarentee that the men you date would want to get married. ie, the people you meet are likely to be around the same age and it’s rare to just randomly date a lot of older men (40s+) when you are in your mid-20s.
let’s say you DO find a husband material and do get married - that’s still not the end of the story isn’t it? I mean, if they are going to cheat and go for the younger girls, they are still going to do it whether you are married or not.
So i get what you are saying, girls have all the advantage in their 20s and being picky, and when they hit 30 they start to pay… but when you really think about it, even if you are smart and not picky and marry young as a girl, you are always at a disadvantage later in life.
Except it’s never been easier to find husband material considering the number of social circles we as humans are exposed to is the highest in history probably. You don’t have to find then given that you’re studying and working so much. You have peers/ colleagues/ their friends. It’s never been easier.
Ultimately if you’re feminine, interesting, cool to hang out with and independent even the hardest of men will have a hard time not falling for you. Also, men don’t cheat without reason if you’ve chosen well.
We’d like to think that, but having more connections doesn’t mean there are more deep connections.
Yes we see and interact with more people now than people 50 years ago (naturally we have more population now), but these interactions are brief and unsubstantial. One may also say, because there are more people to choose from, people will find it more difficult to commit.
Think about it, if you live in a small village and the grocery store has very limited selection, you will be done with your shopping in no time. Now imagine again, you are at a huge supermarket, you will find it more difficult to decide between options and stick to the products only you intended to buy.
i do *wish* your last comment to be true though.
So, people who agonize over what type of running shoes to buy for months will have a tough time committing to another person as well? That actually does sound plausible.
Yes of course, indecisive people will always have a hard time committing, and also ending a relationship.
Yes of course, indecisive people will always have a hard time committing, and also ending a relationship.
It doesn’t have as much to do with population growth as it has to do with urbanization. These connections are not fleeting, though you can choose to see it that way if you wish.
We spend enough time in school, college and the workplace to build meaningful connections. Sure when you have more options people will thnk twice before comitting but the good news is that should they decide to commit it would probably mean more.
Yes, if the grocery store is small you’d pick the product faster, would you be happy with it though?
People may commit eventually, but the selection is still there, they are still in the supermarket.
Yes, sometimes you are more satisfied with limited selection because you don’t know better. Think about how easily amused we are as kids, we go to the park and we thought it was the best place on earth - now we walk by the park and wouldn’t even think to step foot in it.
It’s more difficult to find a mate today because people have raised their standards to unrealitic levels. Marriage has never been about romance and happiness before the last century. Look at what most of our ancestors “settled” for.
^I think the “unrealistic standard” applies to a whole lot more than just spouses.
If you watch movies or reality TV or…well, pretty much anything on TV, you see people driving Mercedes, living in mansions with live-in public servants, a helicopter that shuttles you to/from your private jet, etc. etc. All of this is done while in a $3,000 nightgown or Armani suit, wearing at least twice that amount worth of jewelry. And let’s not forget all the plastic surgery.
That ain’t the real world. The real world is overweight, plain, drives a used Kia, and wears clothes from JC Penney. If you’re lucky to get a vacation, it’s once a year, stowing your own luggage while flying coach on Southwest Airlines. In real life, people scrub their own toilets and mow their own yards.
More options isn’t a bad thing. Like i said choose well that’s all.
Women have it easier . Look good, be fun and friendly without being slutty and you’ll have so many options it isn’t even funny. Start looking at 26 and you have room for error till you’re 32-34.
If you still can’t choose well, pack up and go home.
“Start” looking at 26? You are very generous…
I tend to agree with former trader, there is nothing romantic about marriages. I don’t mind staying single and be happy.
I live in the “real world”, I think people tend to be a lot easier and more fun to date without expectation. If i don’t get married when i reach “32-34” i don’t mind going home to my $3000 night gown and jewelry.
Nana you’re the reason Japan’s population is shrinking!
what do you mean there is nothing romantic about marriages? this is blasphemy.
each to their own i guess, i just was pointing out that should you choose to date with the end goal of meeting a life partner, women have it relatively easier.