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[lxwarr30]

@Greenman72

@Lxwarr - there’s a rabid dog that bites everyone that gets within 50 yards of him in my neighborhood. Do you think I should take it in as a pet? It’s not the dog’s fault that it got rabies.

Are you comparing a dog that has a history of biting people and can potentially kill someone to a human? I think that a rabid dog should be put down because i’m pretty sure it eats their brain and nerves (hurts them too).

If we as a society ignore all people with lesser levels of ______ than we deem worthy we end up in our current situation. Sadly, a woman that is in her situation is more likely to end up in an abusive relationship. If so, the offspring that she has are then more likely to be violent/abusive, more likely to go to jail, etc. I don’t want to sound like a preacher, but it’s ignorant for us all to overlook people so easily.

Obviously, this is an intelligent group of people with high self worth, you should have high standards! I am not trying to be Captain Save a Hoe, I’m just trying to say it’s not so easy to say without other facts. A lot of women are raped and they don’t all deserve to be overlooked. I googled and 1.27m American women were raped in 2010 (that’s not including men!). Assume from 2010-2013 only there were 3.81m different women that this happened to. That’s a big population.

Hypothetical: She’s a BSD Top 2 MBA, M&A’in on Buy Side, but has emotional baggage. Is she worth any time or do you still run?

[higgmond]

^ Still run. I did the girl with significant emotional baggage thing (no pun intended) and it’s not worth it. Of course, I could just be a prick.

[Greenman72]

^It’s not a matter of ignoring her. I’m not suggesting that we throw her on a remote island with a bunch of sodomites or something. Just because I choose not to marry her doesn’t mean that I want to euthanize her.

Obviously she’s got psychological issues and needs help. But she needs a psychiatrist, not another failed relationship.

[whatsyourgovt]

Isildurr, you ever see Goodfellas? The scene below is what i recommend. It will provide some justice in this world and prove to her that you are a caring, alpha male.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AI-VY5cC2jk

[krnyc2008]

@lxwarr30

If we as a society ignore all people with lesser levels of ______ than we deem worthy we end up in our current situation. Sadly, a woman that is in her situation is more likely to end up in an abusive relationship. If so, the offspring that she has are then more likely to be violent/abusive, more likely to go to jail, etc. I don’t want to sound like a preacher, but it’s ignorant for us all to overlook people so easily.

You are right, but the most he can do is to push her to get professional help she needs.

[lxwarr30]

@krnyc2008

@lxwarr30

If we as a society ignore all people with lesser levels of ______ than we deem worthy we end up in our current situation. Sadly, a woman that is in her situation is more likely to end up in an abusive relationship. If so, the offspring that she has are then more likely to be violent/abusive, more likely to go to jail, etc. I don’t want to sound like a preacher, but it’s ignorant for us all to overlook people so easily.

You are right, but the most he can do is to push her to get professional help she needs.

Nothing is to say he can’t cultivate a friendship while doing this. I don’t know this girl’s bio - give me her OkCupid profile and I’ll decide if it’s worth it.

[Greenman72]

^Again, I side with BChad on this one. He wants to bang her. He’s already drunk made out with her, and would have banged her then if he could have found a place. He’s already told her how he feels about her, and she has responded.

Friends is not an option. Either date her, do her, or run. I vote for run.

[krnyc2008]

@lxwarr30

@krnyc2008

@lxwarr30

If we as a society ignore all people with lesser levels of ______ than we deem worthy we end up in our current situation. Sadly, a woman that is in her situation is more likely to end up in an abusive relationship. If so, the offspring that she has are then more likely to be violent/abusive, more likely to go to jail, etc. I don’t want to sound like a preacher, but it’s ignorant for us all to overlook people so easily.

You are right, but the most he can do is to push her to get professional help she needs.

Nothing is to say he can’t cultivate a friendship while doing this. I don’t know this girl’s bio - give me her OkCupid profile and I’ll decide if it’s worth it.

I wasn’t implying he should be friends with her. But if he wants to help her, that’s the only way to do it.

Imo she should pull her sh–t together herself before getting into any relationships…

[system]

[former_trader]

@isildurrr

she’s told me numerous times to move on and how she doesn’t want to fuck with my head.

In womanese, this means she ain’t attracted to you.

[itera]

@former_trader

@isildurrr

she’s told me numerous times to move on and how she doesn’t want to fuck with my head.

In womanese, this means she ain’t attracted to you.

or she wants the D from somewhere else

[Systematic]

Never do the friend thing. Nobody converts that into anything meaningful. Don’t contact her anymore and find some new bishes to rail.

Also, any chance she got raped because she sends so many damn mixed signals? Either that our she told her boyfriend ‘let’s have sex after this episode of how I met your mother’. He proceeded to bang during the last 10 minutes so she said it was rape? No?

[ZeroBonus]

You still haven’t done the only logical thing that you should’ve in post # 1

Post her pictures. If she is an 8 or above by AF standards then you must do whatever it takes to get it in. If not, then RUN you fking dumbass.

[system]

@numi

You are barking up the wrong tree. You’re looking at a tree that many dogs have already pissed on. Run and find another tree.

don’t understand what you’re trying to say here

[system]

@CFAvsMBA

For Fux sake, run! Amazing how insecure analytical people are. You need to be more confident in yourself and realize females are like a commodity these days. It’s not exactly difficult to meet, date, and whatnot with a lovely girl.

Don’t be her doormat cuddle bitch. Man up and realize there are a ton of women who’d love to replace her by having your eye.

yes,there are lots of woman that is true and i don’t think anyone would describe my personality as a doormat.

however i do not wish to wake up at 35-40 and wonder if i should have given that girl at 23 just a bit more time…

[system]

@Systematic

Never do the friend thing. Nobody converts that into anything meaningful. Don’t contact her anymore and find some new bishes to rail.

Also, any chance she got raped because she sends so many damn mixed signals? Either that our she told her boyfriend ‘let’s have sex after this episode of how I met your mother’. He proceeded to bang during the last 10 minutes so she said it was rape? No?

dude,she didn’t get raped by her ex.

she got raped by someone else and the douche spouted that shit.

she’s already been to therepy obviously…do people really get over these things fully though?i doubt it…

[system]

@bchad

I’m with the run crowd.

* You can’t be her friend because you are too physically attracted to her. You will effectively be her friend because you are hoping for more, which basically means you are a superficial friend at best and a false friend at worst.

* You shouldn’t get involved with her emotionally because she’s so screwed up from this stuff that she can only screw you up too.

* You could perhaps do her when she’s drunk and lonely, but that’s likely to screw her up even more and is not a nice thing to knowingly do to someone. I say it’s better to take the high road on that and don’t make her life worse than it already is.

The best you can do is suggest a good therapist to try to work out those kinds of issues. It sounds silly, but it’s really just like physical therapy for the soul, which can get so demoralized by those kinds of events. A year from now, if she’s done that (gone to therapy), maybe you can consider more.

well,till dec i would be a superficial friend yes. If it doesn’t work then well at least i’ll know i did everything i could so maybe i’d keep her as a friend proper and not hope for anything more.

i will not and have not made any adavances when drunk,that’s all on her.If she’s too drunk i might even turn her down…that’s not the route i want to do down.

she’s already been to therepy mate. Sober she’s fine,decently well rounded, though she flies into depression sometimes.Drunk-let’s just say the confusion radiates on her face.

sounds rational enough no?let’s see if it actually works like that…

[system]

The plan here is to be someone important to her,and in december bluff by walking away completely.

of course she’ll not know it’s a bluff.and the walk away would have to be worded perfectly so that it doesn’t seem like coercion.

it seems flawed even as i’m typing it lol…any other idea’s?

[kevinf12]

So you want to bluff someone into being in a relationship with you? Maybe it sounds better in your head than mine. Seems like she has better options based on what she told you (or isnt that attracted to you).

Seems like you dont like the opinions so I am not sure why you asked. Anyway, I would say run or dip in the honey pot and then run (if you can, still I think she needs to be veyr drunk for that to happen), but each ends with running. Not to be rude, but sounds like she has someone to bang, and it isnt you. It really looks like you can keep trying but it wont end well.

[system]

@kevinf12

So you want to bluff someone into being in a relationship with you?

The logic here is that she needs something that won’t threaten her after all that she’s been through recently.

She feels no attraction for him,she’s told me so herself and you can make out.however she say’s the sex is good lol…

if i keep the status quo she’ll be more than happy to keep me as a friend and use him for whatever.it won’t threaten her…she likes that guy,he’s helped her through a lot but in her own words “i hope i can develop feelings for him later”.