Vegas Wedding

bchad · February 17, 2015, 6:58pm

Yes, BS’s reason for executing a pre-nup is actually an easy reason to bring it up.

Prenups make sense in two distinct cases:

There are children from previous marriages whose inheritances and/or access to resources are potentially compromised by a stepparent divorcing and claiming half of family resources.
One party owns or stands to inherit substantially more resources and is trying to protect themselves against the possibility of being seduced for interest in their property. Those kinds of pre-nups might have expiration dates where it’s assumed if the marriage lasts long enough, it was entered in good faith.

krazykanuck · February 17, 2015, 7:09pm

I went to one of my friend’s weddings in Vegas a couple of years ago. They had it at a nice hotel on the strip, did the wedding outside and had the reception indoors. Very classy and likely expensive affair.

itera · February 17, 2015, 7:13pm

After a delightful ceremony in St. Mary’s Church…the reception for Dawson and her new husband Gavin Golightly…was full of love and laughter.

at 12:55 a.m. the newlyweds decided to retire to bed and Dawson asked Golightly to help take off her wedding dress.

“The defendant (Golightly) then tried to undo Ms. Dawson’s dress. She received a crochet (to undo the dress with), but the defendant then refused to undo his new wife’s dress,” says prosecutor Sarah Traynor .

“The defendant then jumped up from his chair, pushed her over… he then sat on top of her and started punching her with clenched fists.

wtf did i miss something here?

happy+wonderful day -> 1am bride wants to take off clothes -> guy tries to take dress off, then refuses, then pushes her over and beats her with fists??

Greenman72 · February 17, 2015, 7:14pm

This is something that would be dictated by state law, and I have no idea what the state laws are in Pennsylvania (or Ohio, or wherever BS’s parents are). But in Texas (a community property state), inheritances are not considered community property. They would be BS’s and BS’s alone. The wife/GF/BabyMomma has no right to them.

However, there’s still a burden of separation. That is, if BS takes the millions that his parents leave him and commingle them with his “general fund”, then the whole fund will become community property. That’s why it’s important to make sure that the funds stay separated for ever and ever amen.

Nonetheless, if BS and his parents want him to sign the prenup, he should still do it.

Sweep_the_Leg · February 17, 2015, 7:16pm

Some people just can’t handle Vegas.

robertucla · February 17, 2015, 7:22pm

There are a lot of Grown Ass Men in this forum that care more about what people think about them and their marriage than their own wife. BS already said his wife is down with this plan and that decision is between him and his wife…not his family and what they think about it.

Congratulations BS.

Black_Swan · February 17, 2015, 7:22pm

He had to return some video tapes.

Matt_Likes_Analysis · February 17, 2015, 7:27pm

we eloped in Hawaii. wouldn’t have done it any other way. if you both want to do it and its not some drunken afterthought, as that is the true stigma of a LV wedding, i think it’ll be awesome. if it’s a classy LV wedding, then the story you tell of your wedding will be classy. not every LV wedding is a Hangover redux. i truly think that eloping is a much more romantic and memorable experience that makes a couple stronger. my wife and i married on a gorgeous beach and ate a multi-course dinner with our very own Hawaiian man servant at our beck and call. many years later, it is still one of my most treasured moments. i can’t imagine going to a golf course with your family, dancing to YMCA and watching your little cousin yack up a steak is someone’s most treasured memory.

Ghibli · February 17, 2015, 7:33pm

Yeah, silly cultures that care about the emotional well being of aging parents. “Hear us roar. We as a couple are an island.” Good luck with that. Everybody breaks.

robertucla · February 17, 2015, 7:38pm

^So you’re telling me the emotional well being of your aging parents is more important than your wife’s happiness/wishes?

rawraw · February 17, 2015, 7:49pm

Matt_Likes_Analysis:

we eloped in Hawaii. wouldn’t have done it any other way. if you both want to do it and its not some drunken afterthought, as that is the true stigma of a LV wedding, i think it’ll be awesome. if it’s a classy LV wedding, then the story you tell of your wedding will be classy. not every LV wedding is a Hangover redux. i truly think that eloping is a much more romantic and memorable experience that makes a couple stronger. my wife and i married on a gorgeous beach and ate a multi-course dinner with our very own Hawaiian man servant at our beck and call. many years later, it is still one of my most treasured moments. i can’t imagine going to a golf course with your family, dancing to YMCA and watching your little cousin yack up a steak is someone’s most treasured memory.

My dad always says you get married for the parents and that the day has nothing to do with you. Sounds like you found a way to make the marriage about you and sounds like BS decision would do the same.

I found this thread interesting on a human level for several reasons, none of which I’m going to end up discussing because this is a big deal to BS. However, I’m a pretty individualistic guy as well, but you can’t ignore social consequences in life unless you want to live in a cave or something. While I’m not sure if Vegas is a good or bad idea, it seems the only benefit is that your friends will already be there. I think eloping in a individualistic way (instead of the Vegas way) would probably accomplish your goal without some of that social stigma BChad discussed. But good luck

Black_Swan · February 17, 2015, 7:50pm

THIS. This is food for thought. We may trade in LV for another location after this description. In my head I’ve been batting around Florence and Nantucket lately.

robertucla · February 17, 2015, 8:00pm

rawraw:

Matt_Likes_Analysis:

we eloped in Hawaii. wouldn’t have done it any other way. if you both want to do it and its not some drunken afterthought, as that is the true stigma of a LV wedding, i think it’ll be awesome. if it’s a classy LV wedding, then the story you tell of your wedding will be classy. not every LV wedding is a Hangover redux. i truly think that eloping is a much more romantic and memorable experience that makes a couple stronger. my wife and i married on a gorgeous beach and ate a multi-course dinner with our very own Hawaiian man servant at our beck and call. many years later, it is still one of my most treasured moments. i can’t imagine going to a golf course with your family, dancing to YMCA and watching your little cousin yack up a steak is someone’s most treasured memory.

My dad always says you get married for the parents and that the day has nothing to do with you. Sounds like you found a way to make the marriage about you and sounds like BS decision would do the same.

I found this thread interesting on a human level for several reasons, none of which I’m going to end up discussing because this is a big deal to BS. However, I’m a pretty individualistic guy as well, but you can’t ignore social consequences in life unless you want to live in a cave or something. While I’m not sure if Vegas is a good or bad idea, it seems the only benefit is that your friends will already be there. I think eloping in a individualistic way (instead of the Vegas way) would probably accomplish your goal without some of that social stigma BChad discussed. But good luck

Your Dad is wrong.

itera · February 17, 2015, 8:02pm

get married for your parents? what a terrible thought. who’s life are you living for anyway?

Black_Swan · February 17, 2015, 8:06pm

What I took from that is marry for the parents, $50k wedding with $20k ring for the wife, stay together for the kids, stay late for the boss. Does not sound appealing.

Black_Swan · February 17, 2015, 8:10pm

I respect the idea of considering the parents. They put a lot of time and care into raising you. I also respect that making your life decisions and basing your experiences on expectation are recipes for unhappiness.

I think so far from what I see the key to being a parent is appreciating the interaction you get but not expecting thanks or a payback. It’s wrong to do so, I’m really not trying to raise my kid to live my dreams. You gotta let them go, and I’d expect any good parent to understand that on a certain level.

Sweep_the_Leg · February 17, 2015, 8:11pm

rawraw:

Matt_Likes_Analysis:

we eloped in Hawaii. wouldn’t have done it any other way. if you both want to do it and its not some drunken afterthought, as that is the true stigma of a LV wedding, i think it’ll be awesome. if it’s a classy LV wedding, then the story you tell of your wedding will be classy. not every LV wedding is a Hangover redux. i truly think that eloping is a much more romantic and memorable experience that makes a couple stronger. my wife and i married on a gorgeous beach and ate a multi-course dinner with our very own Hawaiian man servant at our beck and call. many years later, it is still one of my most treasured moments. i can’t imagine going to a golf course with your family, dancing to YMCA and watching your little cousin yack up a steak is someone’s most treasured memory.

My dad always says you get married for the parents and that the day has nothing to do with you. Sounds like you found a way to make the marriage about you and sounds like BS decision would do the same.

I found this thread interesting on a human level for several reasons, none of which I’m going to end up discussing because this is a big deal to BS. However, I’m a pretty individualistic guy as well, but you can’t ignore social consequences in life unless you want to live in a cave or something. While I’m not sure if Vegas is a good or bad idea, it seems the only benefit is that your friends will already be there. I think eloping in a individualistic way (instead of the Vegas way) would probably accomplish your goal without some of that social stigma BChad discussed. But good luck

I was waiting for the Lending Club tie-in. So disappointed.

Anyway, I believe what you meant to say is that the wedding is for your parents, not your marriage. There’s something to that. Thankfully I have many years before my daughter gets married (or it better be a long ways off anyway), but I’d be pretty pissed if she eloped. Then again, I’d be pretty happy I wouldn’t have to shell out tens of thousands of dollars for wedding, so there’s that. But, yeah, not being able to walk her down the aisle would be fairly crushing as a dad.

robertucla · February 17, 2015, 8:15pm

Sweep_the_Leg:

rawraw:

Matt_Likes_Analysis:

we eloped in Hawaii. wouldn’t have done it any other way. if you both want to do it and its not some drunken afterthought, as that is the true stigma of a LV wedding, i think it’ll be awesome. if it’s a classy LV wedding, then the story you tell of your wedding will be classy. not every LV wedding is a Hangover redux. i truly think that eloping is a much more romantic and memorable experience that makes a couple stronger. my wife and i married on a gorgeous beach and ate a multi-course dinner with our very own Hawaiian man servant at our beck and call. many years later, it is still one of my most treasured moments. i can’t imagine going to a golf course with your family, dancing to YMCA and watching your little cousin yack up a steak is someone’s most treasured memory.

My dad always says you get married for the parents and that the day has nothing to do with you. Sounds like you found a way to make the marriage about you and sounds like BS decision would do the same.

I found this thread interesting on a human level for several reasons, none of which I’m going to end up discussing because this is a big deal to BS. However, I’m a pretty individualistic guy as well, but you can’t ignore social consequences in life unless you want to live in a cave or something. While I’m not sure if Vegas is a good or bad idea, it seems the only benefit is that your friends will already be there. I think eloping in a individualistic way (instead of the Vegas way) would probably accomplish your goal without some of that social stigma BChad discussed. But good luck

I was waiting for the Lending Club tie-in. So disappointed.

Anyway, I believe what you meant to say is that the wedding is for your parents, not your marriage. There’s something to that. Thankfully I have many years before my daughter gets married (or it better be a long ways off anyway), but I’d be pretty pissed if she eloped. Then again, I’d be pretty happy I wouldn’t have to shell out tens of thousands of dollars for wedding, so there’s that. But, yeah, not being able to walk her down the aisle would be fairly crushing as a dad.

You don’t deserve to walk your daughter down the aisle. You earn it.

rawraw · February 17, 2015, 8:24pm

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Sweep_the_Leg · February 17, 2015, 8:26pm

robertucla:

Sweep_the_Leg:

rawraw:

Matt_Likes_Analysis:

we eloped in Hawaii. wouldn’t have done it any other way. if you both want to do it and its not some drunken afterthought, as that is the true stigma of a LV wedding, i think it’ll be awesome. if it’s a classy LV wedding, then the story you tell of your wedding will be classy. not every LV wedding is a Hangover redux. i truly think that eloping is a much more romantic and memorable experience that makes a couple stronger. my wife and i married on a gorgeous beach and ate a multi-course dinner with our very own Hawaiian man servant at our beck and call. many years later, it is still one of my most treasured moments. i can’t imagine going to a golf course with your family, dancing to YMCA and watching your little cousin yack up a steak is someone’s most treasured memory.

My dad always says you get married for the parents and that the day has nothing to do with you. Sounds like you found a way to make the marriage about you and sounds like BS decision would do the same.

I found this thread interesting on a human level for several reasons, none of which I’m going to end up discussing because this is a big deal to BS. However, I’m a pretty individualistic guy as well, but you can’t ignore social consequences in life unless you want to live in a cave or something. While I’m not sure if Vegas is a good or bad idea, it seems the only benefit is that your friends will already be there. I think eloping in a individualistic way (instead of the Vegas way) would probably accomplish your goal without some of that social stigma BChad discussed. But good luck

I was waiting for the Lending Club tie-in. So disappointed.

Anyway, I believe what you meant to say is that the wedding is for your parents, not your marriage. There’s something to that. Thankfully I have many years before my daughter gets married (or it better be a long ways off anyway), but I’d be pretty pissed if she eloped. Then again, I’d be pretty happy I wouldn’t have to shell out tens of thousands of dollars for wedding, so there’s that. But, yeah, not being able to walk her down the aisle would be fairly crushing as a dad.

You don’t deserve to walk your daughter down the aisle. You earn it.

I didn’t mean to imply otherwise. Just saying that even daughters with terrific relationships with their dads elope. If that happened to me, I’d be pretty heartbroken.

Btw, this has nothing to do with BS’s situation. Talking purely hypothetical now.