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[krnyc2008]

@GuyOnABuffalo

@krnyc2008

@numi

@gringo\_bob

I’m a bit detached from the millennial thing so how does this ghosting actually work? Before it do they talk a good game and make it feel like it’s going places and they’re really into you and then just stop responding? That would drive me fu cking crazy

Yeah, that’s pretty much it – speaking of my experience as a resident of SF and NY, anyway. The reason it happens is because if you have 2-3 dates lined up a week, you just don’t have the bandwidth to continue seeing everyone and are constantly looking out for whoever is the best match. You don’t tell someone that you want to stop seeing them unless they’re persistent in knowing, mostly because you either want to preserve optionality (you always want to have a #3, in case #1 or #2 don’t pan out) or don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. And the reality is, I feel like a lot of women are serially dating as well so if they don’t hear from you, no big deal and they just move on anyway since they have other options.

That said, I have a question for the others here. At what point do most people realize they have been “ghosted”? The reason I ask is because I’ve met women who I literally haven’t seen or texted for weeks, sometimes months, yet they still check in from time to time – as though there’s some cautious optimism that things might actually turn into something more substantial or that you hadn’t merely just “hit it and quit it.” thoughts?

Serial dating is the problem imo. It seems to be some sort of defense mechanism that if that guy doesn’t call again it’s no big deal as I have two more dates later that week. I don’t believe anything meaningful can come out of it because it’s impossible to really get to know a person that way. I’d rather figure out for sure it didn’t work out with this guy ( preferably by him telling me rather than disappearing on me ) before I even go out with anyone else.

Not sure why those girls text you after months. Kinda weird…

PS: I am with turd on the rest of the conversation. Too many people are weak and are acting on impulses, and not just in sex lives, but eating, spending habits etc.

This is where women are now on the losing end especially in big cities where the dating pool is so large. The script has been flipped by guys who are employing TRP (the Red Pill) game. They don’t want to get to know you they want to get laid. They are going for quantity. You are looking for quality and holding out for that call meanwhile he has moved on and banged two other chicks that week.

Not sure what TRP is. I don’t believe all guys are always only looking for quantity. But if they are, that will have no effect on my own behavior. I don’t focus on one person at a time because I hope to alter that person behavior. (If they wanna go sleep with two more people that week, so be it). I behave the way I do because that’s the only way that’s meaningful to me.

[Sweep_the_Leg]

@krnyc2008

@GuyOnABuffalo

@krnyc2008

@numi

@gringo\_bob

I’m a bit detached from the millennial thing so how does this ghosting actually work? Before it do they talk a good game and make it feel like it’s going places and they’re really into you and then just stop responding? That would drive me fu cking crazy

Yeah, that’s pretty much it – speaking of my experience as a resident of SF and NY, anyway. The reason it happens is because if you have 2-3 dates lined up a week, you just don’t have the bandwidth to continue seeing everyone and are constantly looking out for whoever is the best match. You don’t tell someone that you want to stop seeing them unless they’re persistent in knowing, mostly because you either want to preserve optionality (you always want to have a #3, in case #1 or #2 don’t pan out) or don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. And the reality is, I feel like a lot of women are serially dating as well so if they don’t hear from you, no big deal and they just move on anyway since they have other options.

That said, I have a question for the others here. At what point do most people realize they have been “ghosted”? The reason I ask is because I’ve met women who I literally haven’t seen or texted for weeks, sometimes months, yet they still check in from time to time – as though there’s some cautious optimism that things might actually turn into something more substantial or that you hadn’t merely just “hit it and quit it.” thoughts?

Serial dating is the problem imo. It seems to be some sort of defense mechanism that if that guy doesn’t call again it’s no big deal as I have two more dates later that week. I don’t believe anything meaningful can come out of it because it’s impossible to really get to know a person that way. I’d rather figure out for sure it didn’t work out with this guy ( preferably by him telling me rather than disappearing on me ) before I even go out with anyone else.

Not sure why those girls text you after months. Kinda weird…

PS: I am with turd on the rest of the conversation. Too many people are weak and are acting on impulses, and not just in sex lives, but eating, spending habits etc.

This is where women are now on the losing end especially in big cities where the dating pool is so large. The script has been flipped by guys who are employing TRP (the Red Pill) game. They don’t want to get to know you they want to get laid. They are going for quantity. You are looking for quality and holding out for that call meanwhile he has moved on and banged two other chicks that week.

Not sure what TRP is. I don’t believe all guys are always only looking for quantity. But if they are, that will have no effect on my own behavior. I don’t focus on one person at a time because I hope to alter that person behavior. (If they wanna go sleep with two more people that week, so be it). I behave the way I do because that’s the only way that’s meaningful to me.

www.reddit.com/r/theredpill

Basically the scum of male society.

[TheBigCheese]

^the day chicks start approaching guys on the regular is the day that stuff won’t matter…which will never happen

[igor555]

https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/6gx7dt/we_are_surrounded_by_idiots_there_is_no_reason/

[Isaiah_53_5]

@TheBigCheese

^the day chicks start approaching guys on the regular is the day that stuff won’t matter…which will never happen

Chicks approach guys all the time

[numi]

@TheBigCheese

^the day chicks start approaching guys on the regular is the day that stuff won’t matter…which will never happen

I think Bumble aims to tackle this very behavioral issue that you describe. It has been my favorite dating app by a country mile. I think there are a couple main reasons for this. Women seem to appreciate having the opportunity to make the first move while also not having to worry as much about getting approached by bozos. It also increases efficiency for the guys, since we don’t have to expend effort messaging with women that wouldn’t otherwise be interested. It’s just a better marketplace for matching men and women, in my opinion.

[TheBigCheese]

@igor555

https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/6gx7dt/we_are_surrounded_by_idiots_there_is_no_reason/

valid points made throughout

[king_kong]

I’ve found that women are less likely to ghost you if you aren’t cheap and are willing to open up your wallet and take them somewhere nice on a first date, like the Cheesecake Factory.

[Isaiah_53_5]

@king\_kong

I’ve found that women are less likely to ghost you if you aren’t cheap and are willing to open up your wallet and take them somewhere nice on a first date, like the Cheesecake Factory.

or “Stouffers Lasagna, that’s how much I want ya” - Outkast

[TheBigCheese]

@Isaiah\_53\_5

@TheBigCheese

^the day chicks start approaching guys on the regular is the day that stuff won’t matter…which will never happen

Chicks approach guys all the time

chicks approach certain guys all the time. The ones that don’t get approached learn game.

[GuyOnABuffalo]

@TheBigCheese

@igor555

https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/6gx7dt/we_are_surrounded_by_idiots_there_is_no_reason/

valid points made throughout

Guessing you are a single guy, early 20s?

[anon47629474]

@king\_kong

I’ve found that women are less likely to ghost you if you aren’t cheap and are willing to open up your wallet and take them somewhere nice on a first date, like the Cheesecake Factory.

Lettin’ them hoez order strawberry lemonade and popcorn shrimps

careful…

They ain’t goin’ do nuthin’ But try to take all your motherfuckin’ cheese! (Yeah!)

[Robotech]

@numi

That said, I have a question for the others here. At what point do most people realize they have been “ghosted”? The reason I ask is because I’ve met women who I literally haven’t seen or texted for weeks, sometimes months, yet they still check in from time to time – as though there’s some cautious optimism that things might actually turn into something more substantial or that you hadn’t merely just “hit it and quit it.” thoughts?

After no response from the second attempt at communication (3rd attempt max).

[krnyc2008]

@Sweep_the_Leg

@krnyc2008

@GuyOnABuffalo

@krnyc2008

@numi

@gringo\_bob

I’m a bit detached from the millennial thing so how does this ghosting actually work? Before it do they talk a good game and make it feel like it’s going places and they’re really into you and then just stop responding? That would drive me fu cking crazy

Yeah, that’s pretty much it – speaking of my experience as a resident of SF and NY, anyway. The reason it happens is because if you have 2-3 dates lined up a week, you just don’t have the bandwidth to continue seeing everyone and are constantly looking out for whoever is the best match. You don’t tell someone that you want to stop seeing them unless they’re persistent in knowing, mostly because you either want to preserve optionality (you always want to have a #3, in case #1 or #2 don’t pan out) or don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. And the reality is, I feel like a lot of women are serially dating as well so if they don’t hear from you, no big deal and they just move on anyway since they have other options.

That said, I have a question for the others here. At what point do most people realize they have been “ghosted”? The reason I ask is because I’ve met women who I literally haven’t seen or texted for weeks, sometimes months, yet they still check in from time to time – as though there’s some cautious optimism that things might actually turn into something more substantial or that you hadn’t merely just “hit it and quit it.” thoughts?

Serial dating is the problem imo. It seems to be some sort of defense mechanism that if that guy doesn’t call again it’s no big deal as I have two more dates later that week. I don’t believe anything meaningful can come out of it because it’s impossible to really get to know a person that way. I’d rather figure out for sure it didn’t work out with this guy ( preferably by him telling me rather than disappearing on me ) before I even go out with anyone else.

Not sure why those girls text you after months. Kinda weird…

PS: I am with turd on the rest of the conversation. Too many people are weak and are acting on impulses, and not just in sex lives, but eating, spending habits etc.

This is where women are now on the losing end especially in big cities where the dating pool is so large. The script has been flipped by guys who are employing TRP (the Red Pill) game. They don’t want to get to know you they want to get laid. They are going for quantity. You are looking for quality and holding out for that call meanwhile he has moved on and banged two other chicks that week.

Not sure what TRP is. I don’t believe all guys are always only looking for quantity. But if they are, that will have no effect on my own behavior. I don’t focus on one person at a time because I hope to alter that person behavior. (If they wanna go sleep with two more people that week, so be it). I behave the way I do because that’s the only way that’s meaningful to me.

www.reddit.com/r/theredpill

Basically the scum of male society.

I don’t know how you guys do Reddit- it gives me ADD. But I googled it - ouch!

[Isaiah_53_5]

@JBrowntown

@numi

That said, I have a question for the others here. At what point do most people realize they have been “ghosted”? The reason I ask is because I’ve met women who I literally haven’t seen or texted for weeks, sometimes months, yet they still check in from time to time – as though there’s some cautious optimism that things might actually turn into something more substantial or that you hadn’t merely just “hit it and quit it.” thoughts?

After no response from the second attempt at communication (3rd attempt max).

oh I misunderstood the concept of ghosting

ill respond if she texts me

[ltj]

This topic is depressing. I’m with Turd.

[Yayyywork]

lololol the big cheese is a red piller? getting all offended when he finds out people mock them? Their “game” is basically focusing on manipulating others, usually because they lack the EQ & confidence to meet someone being genuine. Its really not hard to meet people by being genuinely interested in them and being not fat. Being average looking and able to carry a conversation will literally keep 75% of women from ruling you out.

[Yayyywork]

@ltj

This topic is depressing. I’m with Turd.

Same

[ohai]

I blame ghosting on the deterioration of interpersonal skills due to reliance on social media.

[TheBigCheese]

^pfffft you got me all figured out. I swear, some of you people think you have better behaviour analysis skills than the fucking FBI hahaha

did you read any that link that igor posted? there were valid points there. Live a life you want to live being the main one. stop making assumptions based on a headline or title

I see why people get into game and i see how they can take the worst parts of it to try and get what they want. i, sir, do not need to do that. All i’m saying is i can see why things go the way they do for those people