I think it’s very appreciated if one can do a good job. think about it, we all remember grandma’s cooking and mother’s day is always more celebrated than father’s day.
What men don’t understand is the social aspect of being a stay at home wife, having to work all day without breaks and without much social interactions with others (other than your kid), is perhaps the toughest thing to do.
I think it’s the lack of movie/ tv show portrayal of stay at home dads. If there are more beloved characters on tv who are stay at home dads, people’s perspective may change.
In case the kid still finds you important after having spent 10 years “without” the father and always listening to mother’s comments like “Your father is never here when we have a problem…”
Mom’s words are poison sometimes even if she doesn’t mean it in the long run. It’s those quips in the heat of the moment that have a lasting affect on a childs relationship with their father. Sad that such pettiness can shape a childs view on the world.
A Harvard-trained sleep doctor has come up with the best program to address the sleep issues. He has authored a widely available book: Say Goodnight to Insomnia which is extremely effective.
You come from a very different culture. If the couple divorces in the USA, the home dad still has to pay alimony and ends up being a deadbeat dad cause he has no career obviously. Few women would want to take that risk, just like no men in western countries would let the wife take complete care of all the financial stuff / family budget.
your last post was a couple of weeks ago so you may have reached a resolution already. in case not, however, i wanted to share how i would approach it.
i imagine that your mother-in-law is very interested to see your husband pass the exam. i would expect that she will be very proud of him when he passes. i would use this, plus the fact that he is so busy at work, to my advantage. my plan: i would develop a study schedule (in terms of readings) that coincides between the two of us. then, i would offer to make flashcards, summaries of the readings, etc. that my husband can use to make his study more efficient. then, i would explain to my mother-in-law that, as a dedicated wife, i need additional time to work on these things so that my husband has the best possible chance of passing, despite his busy schedule and other stresses he’s feeling.
the result (theoretically): you look like a supportive wife in the eyes of your mother-in-law because you’re dedicating yourself to something that is important to your husband. you also get the true benefit, which is the additional time to learn the material yourself, making you as prepared as possible for exam day.
i also would defintely hire the maid to take some pressure off of yourself.
Thanks much for the feedback! Sounds like a good idea! I’ll try to work around it.
One strategy I am using is study with husband on weekends full time (even weekdays if he is studying) MIL don’t bother me that time as expected. Perfect time to maximise study session!
Unfortunately couldn’t find maid who can come frequently. So, surviving on maid coming just once or twice a week.
I am Half way through the curriculum as yet though I want to speed up badly!
PS: Listening to Ethics with eyes closed just before bed time is doing wonders to my sleep!