interesting…very interesting to see how guys brain work…I’m just LMAO
Miss*Yiota Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > interesting…very interesting to see how guys > brain work…I’m just LMAO well you can share the female perspective
Ok Ok, Back to ME ME ME ME. Messaged the bird, said something similar to lxwarr20’s . She responded back pretty quickly answering my question about her trip back. then “yea might see you in (insert city name here)!” Then asked me how my journey home was. Her text had a few exclamation marks and smiley, but I guess thats normal from the kids these days. I just responded answering her question and said something like “ok lets catch up when you’re back, in some weeks I think you said.” Never got a response back. That was like 4 hours ago I sent. So her “might” is not the best response a guy could get I guess. And dont know how great my text back was, but anyway, all is passed now, unsalvagable I guess.
smuggycfa Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > ok. lemme try to speak from a girl’s perspective: > > > In early 20s, most girls like to have fun > especially if they are career oriented. Guy’s with > good looks, charming personality and those who > talk smoothly have no trouble in mixing with these > girls. And if theguy has a good heart like many of > AFers here then there are LT chances as well. It > depends on chemistry b/w two. > smuggycfa, I thought you’d never stop by. I think I’m in love.
Shorty just text me, say she wanna sex me, LOL SMILIE FACE LOL:) As for this girl. Yea… a ‘might’ and 4 hours later = done.
^ Man what is the deal with women? I spent a whole night with her, making out a lot, etc etc. Text her and she texts back. But then nothing again?? I just dont get women, ive had it!!!
transferpricingCFA Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Ok Ok, > > Back to ME ME ME ME. > > Messaged the bird, said something similar to > lxwarr20’s . > > She responded back pretty quickly answering my > question about her trip back. then “yea might see > you in (insert city name here)!” Then asked me how > my journey home was. > > Her text had a few exclamation marks and smiley, > but I guess thats normal from the kids these > days. > > I just responded answering her question and said > something like “ok lets catch up when you’re back, > in some weeks I think you said.” > > Never got a response back. That was like 4 hours > ago I sent. > > So her “might” is not the best response a guy > could get I guess. And dont know how great my text > back was, but anyway, all is passed now, > unsalvagable I guess. Maybe because your text sounds too “boring guy”… And not sure it was a good idea as someone suggested to wait 2 days before texting her. That what you should have done the same day, right away, to show your interest. Not to make her feel like she’s one of your alternative plan and you just text her when you have nothing interesting to do, like while waiting for your bus
transfer u can always get married in ny if “you’ve had it”. haha. i think the problem you’re having here is that you were both in a random city and wanted the company for a night. she didnt expect/want it to go on probably much farther than that. i’ve had girls do that response/ignore tactic. let them play their games, just move on and find something new to poke.
transferpricingCFA, your text message was fairly uninteresting…try to find a lighter touch, something more humorous if you can. Girls dig the funny. Seriously. You can look like like a total beast and still get a nice haul if you can make a girl laugh. In Spanish, it sounds like “Jajajaja!” But more importantly, it sounds like you got a “false read” on her. I think getting better at it just comes from experience – gotta know when they’re just looking for fun and when they’re looking for more. For me, if it’s a weekend and I’ve had someone over, I’ll always offer to make brunch – an omelette, pancakes, something fairly easy to make but delicious, and a good opportunity to try to have a normal chat with the girl. Usually I find that the ones that are willing to stay or provide a reason why they can’t are the ones worth following up with (or maybe they just find it hard to say “no” to free brunch). Other times they just say something along the lines of “no, it’s OK, but it was fun hanging out.” In those cases, you just take the hint and move on since it’s probably pointless to follow up. Some girls really are looking for fun, and it’s not an affront to you…it’s just all they want for a night. This is especially true if you don’t live in the same city. I guess the key is to not get too sentimentally attached before the picture becomes clear. But I’ve also heard a saying that whereas women fall harder, men fall easier…it could just be that type of thing. When in doubt, just remember the wise words of Ice Cube: “You gotta check yourself before you wreck yourself.” ----- Contact me for career advisory / dating 101 services…oops porcupines@gmail.com
P.S. long story short, don’t take it hard on yourself either, i think you guys probably had a good connection for a night and that’s it! too bad she’s onto another city…but whatever, maybe you did all that you could, it just isn’t practical with the distance. just try to move onto the next “bird” as you like to say.
Agree Numi, I do fall easy for women, no doubt. Still there’s too much games and thinking. I think I gotta stop over thinking things and what I write next etc etc, and just do. But my final text didnt really call for follow up, so maybe it was more a finality until a few weeks time? Or am I clutching at straws here?
Yeh, but the thing is numi, she actually studies ina city really really near me, thats why I thought more was possible when she gets back
transferpricingCFA Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Yeh, but the thing is numi, she actually studies > ina city really really near me, thats why I > thought more was possible when she gets back THOUGHT
transferpricingCFA Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Yeh, but the thing is numi, she actually studies > ina city really really near me, thats why I > thought more was possible when she gets back you might really be a boring guy man…to target a 21Y you need to be more “alive” than that
^Thought Id be interesting as Im a foreigner in another country. Much more lively than the general local guys… Also this didnt seem like a crazy 21yo to be honest. But whatever, learn from every experience I guess as numi says and move on. Should just be flattered a cute 21yo wanted to hang out and make out with me until the wee hours. Must mean Im not looking too bad still
transferpricingCFA Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > ^Thought Id be interesting as Im a foreigner in > another country. External characteristics rarely a viable replacement for genuine high energy > Much more lively than the general > local guys… Apparently she disagrees
lxwarr30 Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > transferpricingCFA Wrote: > -------------------------------------------------- > ----- > > Yeh, but the thing is numi, she actually > studies > > ina city really really near me, thats why I > > thought more was possible when she gets back > > > THOUGHT WORK BUT REAL LIFE FAIL Agreed, since I stopped putting in effort, things have been going pretty well
I also want to add, a girl shouldnt be basing a guy not being exciting enough on a text message! Considering I was exciting enough in real life, and she thought so to give me her real number at the end of the night, well it should be enough. Not like her text was anything exciting. RANT OVER
I think you guys are both young and you’re both doing the right thing to move on to whatever the next best thing is
transferpricingCFA Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > ^ Man what is the deal with women? I spent a whole > night with her, making out a lot, etc etc. > > Text her and she texts back. But then nothing > again?? > > I just dont get women, ive had it!!! quit being a wimpy geek, either call her or move on to the next