When Linda Evangelista asked me to have a drink with her in the 1990s, I didn’t realize who she was, and I turned her down because I’d had a bad weekend with another girl and was feeling unconfident. I would probably not do the same today, but it is one of those moments that you go through the rest of your life wishing you could take back. She was indeed looking hot that day (she doesn’t always look hot in her photos today).
As much of a tool as you are bchad if a supermodel asked you to have a drink with you you must have some real life game as hard as that is for me to believe. LE is gorgeous. Back to the thread. There is NOTHING wrong with online dating. I have limited time and where I live the majority is geek dudes. I can search what I want (or they can) and meet someone with zero BS. My only complaint is the women that use old pictures. Other than that it is a great way to meet people, I am guessing my closing ratio is 4/5 (hookups), and because I can be friends with women if it isn’t going to be a long term match I can be cool about being friends. Think of it this way. You meet someone in a bar but you don’t know anything about the person. Online you basically know their resume in advance. The trick is to talk on the phone immediately and meet within two weeks so you don’t waste time.
^ People still answer their phones?? I ask for the number quickly…message #3 max then send a text a few days later to set up a date. On the date, the key is to constantly escalate…from flirting, to light touching, to hand holding to making out…Never apologize for being a man. The great thing about escalating is that you know exactly where you stand. Her reaction speaks louder than words.
I have to set up drinks with this new girl from okcupid. She’s a 6ish, maybe a 7 if you don’t have your contacts in yet and are seeing a bit fuzzy. Whatever…it’ll do. ^ but ft, following that and being aggressive worked with the last girl I went out with. We were in my bed at the end of date 2. Gotta be aggressive.
If this was after Freedom '90, I’m not sure how you live with yourself.
perhaps but there are a lot of celebrities who have normal significant others…deffo worth trying.
numi what ever happend? did you give it a shot, if so what was your exp?
Because people NEVER lie about their resume online. And you can NEVER have a real-life conversation with someone at a bar.
I just get tired of ripping through profiles. You look and look and look, write a few messages, then realize it’s close to 11PM and you’re still sitting in your room solo. At least going out you score what you slay. Much more of a contact sport. Online dating is a bit depressing. At a bar you at least can pass over the pack of fuglies whereas online it takes some analysis to see how much of their picture is photoshopped, taken during the senior year of high school, and so forth.
Maybe Bro can hook us all up with his data scraping program so we can sift through the rubble of online dating ;-).
Why not just go out to bars and clubs and pick up chicks in there? It’s more fun, and you get to meet the actual person (instead of a photoshopped pic and overly refined profile).
I would think that people would use photos to discount their actual apperance this way you can exceed expectations in person.
I haven’t tried online yet but i am personally sick of bars and i havent gone to a club in a while. Before my ex i was happy with the bar scene and what some of you would call success stories but now a days i need a bit more.
Word.
I’m not in the dating scene, and hope never to be again. But I was getting tired of going to bars and dance clubs and what not. When you go there, guys tend to be a little more “alpha”, and I’m certainly not an alpha kind of guy. But women are attracted to alphas, so I usually just wound up being a wallflower.
And I think that at a certain point, people start aging and maturing and your definition of “success” changes. These days, if I can have a really good conversation, a phone number, and an “I’d like to meet again”, that would be a success.
I’m sure that in NYC he can find a club/bar he likes. Besides loud music (and not every bar/club is like that), why would you be sick of them? There are lots of women, nicely dressed, and open to socializing.
Probably the biggest reason is I’m not a fan of drinking anymore and im becoming a person that enjoys the morning now than the late night. Perhaps its maturity, experience, idk but the girls im looking for are usuallly not at the bars.
Online dating should be a supplement to meeting people in everyday interactions, not a substitute for it.
One advantage of the online format is that you at least know they are single and looking. Lots of people you meet in the real world are already coupled up or otherwise unavailable. It’s also nice to have a little bit of a profile to react to. Yes, people lie online, and guess what, they lie in the real world too, but at least you have a little bit of a backstory and hint about their interests that can help guide the initial conversations.
True, but it’s harder to tell if they’re lying online. (I think.)
And attitude, demeanor, and personality are really hard to read whilst perusing the online ads. When I meet somebody face-to-face, I generally know whether I like them or not. It’s hard to like or dislike a person you’ve never met.
I think what’s you govt needs to wrastle with some of the BJJ chicks at his MMA gym. We have an analyst at work who is cute and is really into martial arts…and Eastern European.
Agree that meeting people druck and/or meeting drunk people can get a little tired. Easy solution: become a skydiving instructor so you can be strapped to women’s backs and literally save their lives every day…well, not really easy solution.
Before I finally grew up and got into the real world, I was heavily involved in nightclub life. I’m definitely an introvert but was able to meet a lot of girls due to my role in the clubs. The girls were fun to party with but didn’t have long-term potential. And I’d have to say the majority were just flat out crazy.
I ended up having a type of arranged marriage. It was actually a family-arranged meeting with a lot pressure from both sides. I know it sounds crazy to most of you Westerners (me included) but it has worked out better than I could have imagined. An arranged marriage removes a lot of the preconceived notions of “true love” or a “soul mate.” The compatibility issue is determined by your parents and you learn to love your spouse as you get to know them. I’d have to say that my parents did a much better job than I could have ever done for myself.
I’ve always heard that arranged marriages are the most successful.
RE: Online dating:
I know this girl, she physically resembles a troll. At 25 she’s never been on one date. No guy would ever give her a chance. Around the beginning of this year, she went on match.com and now she’s going on a date every weekend. I think she might’ve even got laid!
I’m in the market of finding a new gym since my move to boston. In ny it was a team, we did have two girls but they weren’t your typical girls. Eastern euro as well, good bodies, but their faces def reflected the sport they participated in.