Wife Complaining: How to be more sensitive?..

[MailSnoop]

My wife does this quite a bit and I have a few questions to see if she wants a solution or she just needs to vent. 9.9999/10 she just needs to vent so just listen, be supportive and space out once you know a solution isn’t needed.

[Sweep_the_Leg]

@krnyc2008

@Sweep_the_Leg

@krnyc2008

@Sweep_the_Leg

Really, you’ve met some AFers? I recall you saying you’d never meet anyone. I’m envious.

As for my science project…I’ll release the results when I’m finished.

Don’t be envious. Come to NYC and we’ll go out for coffee. Make sure to look like Christian Bale

I don’t drink coffee so we’ll have to make it vodka. Let’s go to that pizza place you mentioned a while back.

And, I’ve been a bit gluttonous recently so I’m more like Christian Bale from American Hustle than American Psycho. Still have great hair though.

I don’t remember which pizza I mentioned before but Rubirosa on the lower east side is my favorite right now… But who drinks vodka with pizza???

Haha as long as not the one from “Machinist”

Highly functioning alcoholics and Russians.

[igor555]

stl def that guy that his wife is shagging someone on the side

[Sweep_the_Leg]

@KMeriwetherD

I don’t understand how STL could have a theory about AF women. There is a sample size of about 3.

Wait, there’s a third? Now I have to start over.

[Robotech]

@GuyOnABuffalo

Anyway, I’ll just leave this here and check out from the conversation.

http://www.analystforum.com/forums/water-cooler/91338997

http://www.analystforum.com/forums/water-cooler/91355094

http://www.analystforum.com/forums/water-cooler/91344636

Good to see that somebody’s been taking notes.

[Sweep_the_Leg]

@igor555

stl def that guy that his wife is shagging someone on the side

I’ve encouraged my wife to sleep with other women but she insists she’s straight. I should have vetted her better before tying the knot.

[igor555]

@Sweep_the_Leg

@igor555

stl def that guy that his wife is shagging someone on the side

I’ve encouraged my wife to sleep with other women but she insists she’s straight. I should have vetted her better before tying the knot.

lucky guy. neighbor, not you

[Sweep_the_Leg]

@igor555

@Sweep_the_Leg

@igor555

stl def that guy that his wife is shagging someone on the side

I’ve encouraged my wife to sleep with other women but she insists she’s straight. I should have vetted her better before tying the knot.

lucky guy

On a serious note, I’ve often wondered if I’d really want a FFM situation. Sounds like a lot of work. On the other hand, it’s twice the boobs. Tough call.

[Isaiah_53_5]

@KMeriwetherD

LOL!

I think you are just supposed to give her a foot rub

Pulp Fiction - “Foot Massage” [video:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KCO-SBPTF5E]

[krnyc2008]

@Sweep_the_Leg

@igor555

@Sweep_the_Leg

@igor555

stl def that guy that his wife is shagging someone on the side

I’ve encouraged my wife to sleep with other women but she insists she’s straight. I should have vetted her better before tying the knot.

lucky guy

On a serious note, I’ve often wondered if I’d really want a FFM situation. Sounds like a lot of work. On the other hand, it’s twice the boobs. Tough call.

That’s your serious note?!?

[former_trader]

@GuyOnABuffalo

@pokhim

Dude?!! Srs?.

Just that i dont want to talk about the personal things in my life on an open forum doesn’t mean we’re in an unhappy relationship or someone is shagging the postman…

Do you want sympathy or an objective outside perspective and honest feedback on your situation? Never said someone is shagging the postman but its funny that you go there.

A wiseman once said that on average a woman mentally dumps a guy 6 months before she actually verbally tells him it’s over. Not saying it’s the case here as I have no idea about the relationship between the OP and his wife but I’m just throwing out a general statement that more often than not guys are clueless as to the state of their relationship. You have no idea how many times I’ve heard men say they are in a healthy, happy relationship before hearing their wives/gf dumped them a few weeks/months later…and the guy always ends up claiming he didn’t see it coming and how great/generous/loving he was to her.

[whatsyourgovt]

KR - wtf, i thought id be your first AFer​​​​​​

OP - sounds horrible. ask for a divorce.

[whatsyourgovt]

@former_trader

@GuyOnABuffalo

@pokhim

Dude?!! Srs?.

Just that i dont want to talk about the personal things in my life on an open forum doesn’t mean we’re in an unhappy relationship or someone is shagging the postman…

Do you want sympathy or an objective outside perspective and honest feedback on your situation? Never said someone is shagging the postman but its funny that you go there.

A wiseman once said that on average a woman mentally dumps a guy 6 months before she actually verbally tells him it’s over. Not saying it’s the case here as I have no idea about the relationship between the OP and his wife but I’m just throwing out a general statement that more often than not guys are clueless as to the state of their relationship. You have no idea how many times I’ve heard men say they are in a healthy, happy relationship before hearing their wives/gf dumped them a few weeks/months later…and the guy always ends up claiming he didn’t see it coming and how great/generous/loving he was to her.

Truth right here. No turning back after that decision is made either.

[former_trader]

@whatsyourgovt

@former_trader

@GuyOnABuffalo

@pokhim

Dude?!! Srs?.

Just that i dont want to talk about the personal things in my life on an open forum doesn’t mean we’re in an unhappy relationship or someone is shagging the postman…

Do you want sympathy or an objective outside perspective and honest feedback on your situation? Never said someone is shagging the postman but its funny that you go there.

A wiseman once said that on average a woman mentally dumps a guy 6 months before she actually verbally tells him it’s over. Not saying it’s the case here as I have no idea about the relationship between the OP and his wife but I’m just throwing out a general statement that more often than not guys are clueless as to the state of their relationship. You have no idea how many times I’ve heard men say they are in a healthy, happy relationship before hearing their wives/gf dumped them a few weeks/months later…and the guy always ends up claiming he didn’t see it coming and how great/generous/loving he was to her.

Truth right here. No turning back after that decision is made either.

Absolutely correct.

The most asked question by men after a breakup is how can I get her back. The only answer to that question is to move on and date new people.

Ironically the 2% chance that she changes her mind and wants to get back together is when she sees her former lover happy in his new life and sought after by other women.

[pokhim]

@GuyOnABuffalo

Anyway, I’ll just leave this here and check out from the conversation.

http://www.analystforum.com/forums/water-cooler/91338997

http://www.analystforum.com/forums/water-cooler/91355094

http://www.analystforum.com/forums/water-cooler/91344636

… though I am interested in hearing KR’s response to STL’s side topic. That probably deserves it’s own thread.

This is great! Thanks

[system]

@pokhim

I tell her to go to the Dr if you’re sick, be grateful she’s got a job and roof over her head

LMAO!!!

Like Turd said, they don’t want rational answers, you’re supposed to say “SOUNDS LIKE SOMEONE NEEDS SOME SNUGGLING AND ICE CREAM!!!”. Random nonsense to keep their mind off it.

[el_macca17]

we may disagree on whether Roger should retire, but FT’s dating advice is always spot on.

[Isaiah_53_5]

@pokhim

So the wife was moaning last night… she’s upset coz she’s not feeling well, she doesn’t like her well paid job and she wants to go on holiday again and a few other private things which I guess have been getting her down lately.

She starts telling me all this stuff and I tell her to go to the Dr if you’re sick, be grateful she’s got a job and roof over her head and stuff like that. I was extremely practical and told her how to fix her issues. I then said that she shouldn’t let the weight of the small pressures overbear her and put her in misery as it has a snowball effect. I probably also said something like that it isnt a big deal and get over it…millions of women go through this sort of stuff all the time…

Anyway she told me how insensitive I was and that i don’t listen and i’m rubbish at this, that, the other. So I asked her how to be more sensitive and she told me she wouldn’t tell me, which is why i’m here asking my CFA brethrans.

How do you be more sensitive when a woman is moaning about her life?..

thanks

peace!

Women basically want 2 things:

a) listening ear

b) love and acts of kindness

Note: a) is many times more difficult than b). You can’t bemoan ridiculous comments, but have to be patient and understanding in a perspective that is different than yours.

[hei.so]

@former_trader

A wiseman once said…

Are his initials FT?

[krnyc2008]

@former_trader

@GuyOnABuffalo

@pokhim

Dude?!! Srs?.

Just that i dont want to talk about the personal things in my life on an open forum doesn’t mean we’re in an unhappy relationship or someone is shagging the postman…

Do you want sympathy or an objective outside perspective and honest feedback on your situation? Never said someone is shagging the postman but its funny that you go there.

A wiseman once said that on average a woman mentally dumps a guy 6 months before she actually verbally tells him it’s over. Not saying it’s the case here as I have no idea about the relationship between the OP and his wife but I’m just throwing out a general statement that more often than not guys are clueless as to the state of their relationship. You have no idea how many times I’ve heard men say they are in a healthy, happy relationship before hearing their wives/gf dumped them a few weeks/months later…and the guy always ends up claiming he didn’t see it coming and how great/generous/loving he was to her.

Men do that too